Are Mentally Ill People Annoying?
Mental illnesses are very cruel. They make you feel like you're worthless, suffering through a living hell, and better off dead. They warp your perception of reality; everything you do is a burden on humanity and everybody secretly hates you. And because the world's a horrible place, mental illness is viewed as something shameful, a weakness, a vileness in the soul.
With this in mind it's important to have support and people who keep reminding you that they love you. I find that a lot of people, especially younger people or those burnt by a recent betrayal, are very hung up on the idea of people leaving.
(While I'm on the subject: everyone leaves or dies. This does not make the time you spent together any less meaningful. Prepare accordingly.)
A natural consequence of self-hatred and the desire to still have people love you is hyperawareness of every tiny little thing you do, constantly watching out for anything which might annoy or upset them, at which point they will leave forever. When you're in that state, being told you're annoying might be akin to being told you deserve to die.
Spoiler alert for people who manage to come out the other side: everyone's annoying. No exceptions, certainly not mental health based ones. Hell, even unborn babies can be annoying and they're still in the womb.
Everyone's annoying because everyone has different needs and wants and these are never going to gel perfectly. Some people think you need to lighten up. Some people think your jokes aren't funny. Someone gets annoyed because you don't contact them enough. Someone else gets annoyed because they think you contact them too much. You get the picture. This is why trying to please everyone is fruitless.
And sure, you might annoy people sometimes (or get annoyed by them), but that doesn't mean we don't love you really. Sure, you might be a bit irritating sometimes, but everyone is - and being a bit irritating sometimes in no way cancels out love, support, friendship, fun, building amazing memories together, you name it and it's probably in there somewhere...
...So go forth and be annoying. It's not a judgement on how awful you are, it's a sign that you're human.
And seriously. We still love you anyway.
With this in mind it's important to have support and people who keep reminding you that they love you. I find that a lot of people, especially younger people or those burnt by a recent betrayal, are very hung up on the idea of people leaving.
(While I'm on the subject: everyone leaves or dies. This does not make the time you spent together any less meaningful. Prepare accordingly.)
A natural consequence of self-hatred and the desire to still have people love you is hyperawareness of every tiny little thing you do, constantly watching out for anything which might annoy or upset them, at which point they will leave forever. When you're in that state, being told you're annoying might be akin to being told you deserve to die.
Spoiler alert for people who manage to come out the other side: everyone's annoying. No exceptions, certainly not mental health based ones. Hell, even unborn babies can be annoying and they're still in the womb.
Everyone's annoying because everyone has different needs and wants and these are never going to gel perfectly. Some people think you need to lighten up. Some people think your jokes aren't funny. Someone gets annoyed because you don't contact them enough. Someone else gets annoyed because they think you contact them too much. You get the picture. This is why trying to please everyone is fruitless.
And sure, you might annoy people sometimes (or get annoyed by them), but that doesn't mean we don't love you really. Sure, you might be a bit irritating sometimes, but everyone is - and being a bit irritating sometimes in no way cancels out love, support, friendship, fun, building amazing memories together, you name it and it's probably in there somewhere...
...So go forth and be annoying. It's not a judgement on how awful you are, it's a sign that you're human.
And seriously. We still love you anyway.
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